Everyday changes

I love how we all try to get things back to ‘normal’. What exactly is normal? Why do we want it? Is it even really possible?

I have figured out in all my trips around the sun that what is normal for me changes every single day and sometimes it changes by the minute. I think most people want things to flow easily and not have stress. Well let me stop you right there. Life is full of stressful things and most of the time plans don’t go smooth and easy. I love when we plan something and as soon as we feel good about the plans then something happens, a friend stops by to visit and we get behind or a call from someone who needs us to help them out and it is usually right when we had something else planned. I don’t know how you are but I usually change my plans to help out everyone. I figure unless what I am doing is an emergency it can wait. I love helping people when I can. I know I would want someone to help me when they could.

Some people’s normal could look boring or even wild and crazy to me. I am pretty sure that my normal would look out of control and crazy wild for most everyone else. I actually love it when the house is full of noise and grand babies running all over the house. I think even my husband doesn’t like all the noise for his normal. Lol!

I have always loved having a lot of things going on. I have found over the years that I like to have 3 to 6 things going on all the time. I might complain about not having enough time to do it all but I love it. I do my best work when I am rushing at the last minute. Most people never know that I was up all night and running crazy right up to the last minute.

I think we want normal because we feel in control. So many things in life are out of our control and when we can set a schedule or plan the perfect day we are in control. It does feel out of control when everything is crazy and you don’t know what is next or how you could possibly get it all done. But after it is figured out and done it always gives me a sense of great accomplishment. I can look back thru my life and see the most proud I feel about things I have done is usually around craziness. Because despite everything falling apart around me I actually got it done. I might not have been in control of everything around me but I was in control of finishing my task or getting things handled or whatever it was. So even though the normal was out of control I did have a positive outcome when I got thru it all. You can only control what you do in the craziness.

I think we can create a normal for us but we have to learn to be flexible. The ridged guideline we put on the perfect schedule or life feels out of the normal when we don’t allow for things to happen. They will not always be interrupted or out of control but by allowing yourself the freedom for change you give yourself permission to flow with anything. Normal is not defined by ridged rules it is more about creating a free flowing life that works for you. My free flowing life may be a crazy mess to you but if it works for me it is my normal.

We should stop comparing our journey thru life to everyone else’s. Different normals and perspectives are a good thing. Don’t try to create the ridge mess of your friend life or the crazy out of control life of someone but find your happy normal and be happy there. Normal will not make you happy always. The fun and memorable things in life sometimes comes out of a not so normal day or life.

So learn to move with the flow of things and be happy in each moment and don’t compare your normal to anyone else’s and be flexible to unexpected changes you just might have the best day ever! Tomorrow is always a new day to create another new normal.

Smile and enjoy the ride because you have a one way, non refundable, golden ticket thru your own normal life.

Shelia 🙂